Long Live the (Spoiled) Queen


You see it everyday. It’s all around us and it can get a little annoying and rude, but we choose to ignore it.  It’s at the grocery store, it’s in schools, it’s even at church!

What could this apocalyptic thing possibly be?

I’ll give you a hint: you were once one of these, maybe you still are.

Maybe you’ll get it after my little story in a sec…

I’ve seen it with my own eyes. A mother buys her three year old son a Transformers action figure to cease the embarrassment she faced as he wailed and screamed in the middle of the mall.  The moment the recently bought toy was in his chubby little hands, he immediately stopped his temper tantrum and sat down in the middle of the store while his mother made an “important” phone call a couple feet away from the child. I did find it strange that the pair caught my attention, but they once again made a flashy appearance following a deafening shout.

Like everyone else, who heard the noise, I looked at them to see what happened. The boy had somehow broken the arm off the Transformer and was upset about it. The mother, who could no longer pretend to ignore it, picked her son up by the wrist and started to drag him out of the store. No attempt at pacifying the toddler whatsoever. The further away he got from the toy he left on the floor, the louder he became.

To be honest, I was shocked at what she did.

She bought him another toy. This time, it was was bigger. I saw some other customers shake their head and walk away. I even heard a woman whisper “Spoiled brat” as the pair walked out of the store. Mom was clearly embarrassed while the little boy was ecstatic about his toy which could have easily towered over him.

You’re probably thinking that the little three year old is spoiled. But it’s not his fault. He doesn’t know any better. He doesn’t know that the way he’s raised will affect his life in the future. He can’t tell his mom to stop what she’s doing.

The answer to the previously stated question is…mothers.

Mothers are responsible for making sure their children know how to take care of themselves and eventually raising their own children successfully. This won’t happen when the mother spoils the child, the child grows up thinking the world revolves around him/her, and them turning their own children spoiled. It’s an endless cycle and it will not end until the mother stomps her foot on the ground to demand change.

Yes, there will be a lot of screaming and maybe even some protests, but it’s worth it. When your kid is sixteen maybe even twenty-five years old, they’ll think back when they were children and say “I’m so glad that my mom didn’t spoil me. I would probably have turned out worse and not be where I am now.”

What a satisfactory thing to hear as a parent. And what a pleasing sight to see as a child; your mother tearing up after hearing those words. It’s a win-win situation.

It’s not going to be easy. Both parties would have to work hard, even if the child despises the mother for a moment. I know I did. But after everything, all the fights, arguments, crying myself to sleep because I was so upset…it was all worthy it.

I’m glad that my mom put the effort in to keep me from getting too spoiled. I’m grateful that she worried over me and fussed about what I was eating for lunch. it’s good to know that your mom cares about you, even if you think it’s embarrassing.

I’m glad that my mom grew up in a poor family. I’m glad that she never got a college education because that means she values mine more. She wants the best for me because she never got it. Her own humble upbringing was reflected in the way I am today and I can never thank her enough for that.

Just remember, spoiled mother= spoiled brat.

You want to get rid of all the spoiled children who cry and demand things even though it’s illogical? First, fix the mother. After that, everything would fall in place sooner or later.

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